More Sneaky Tactics Mothers and Mother-in-Laws Will Do to Control You Part Two

In this last article you were given seven manipulative and controlling strategies some mothers will come up with to get her son or daughter to do what they want. Some mothers may not want these tactics revealed because they have used them a long time and they work! However, if anyone (not just a mother) has to resort to such tactics to get her son or daughter to do something for them, then we can fairly assume that she doesn’t have a very good relationship with her children and she should sincerely seek help, find a better way to communicate her needs, or simply back off and let them do for her as they see fit and not the other way around. She may even need to consider finding someone else to tend to her needs if her children don’t. Seven additional tactics are as follows. This is part two of the first article.

Seven. Your mother, mother-in-law or stepmother may say things that you or someone else didn’t say to get attention.

Like a child, it doesn’t matter what kind of attention they want from their parents just so long as they can get you to look, your mother may be doing the same thing. Stories of robbery, conflicts with relatives and neighbors, and other similar “front page” news dramas fall quickly from her lips when she doesn’t want you to find out a truth about her. You see, if you know the truth, she fears you might not want to come around anymore, so sometimes to get negative attention off of her while gaining a positive image, she will try to get you to focus on someone else while she comes up with yet another scheme to control you.

The best way to counter against this tactic is to provide proof when she lies and remind her that you will not talk or come around her if she feels she has to disrespect you to get you to do what she wants.

Eight. She will argue or threaten.

Sometimes she may not have the energy to orchestrate a plan to get you to do what she wants so she will just yell at you. She may even call you a few names or threaten to do something to you if you don’t listen. You can avoid her future outburst by giving her a long time out and if she said or did some really bad things to you and your family, put your foot down and cut her off. Mothers like to talk about the biblical scriptures that say “Honor thy mother…” Exodus 20:12 but what they fail to do is find the scripture that talks about “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord,” Ephesians 6:1-4.” There are some mothers who act in the role of fathers and do just that!

Nine. She will use others to influence you when she can’t get you to do what she wants (ie. partner, siblings, childhood friends, etc.)

She has enough time on her hands to converse with those that know you and she will tell them things like, “He never wants to be a part of the family. We use to be so close! His wife is causing him not to come around us anymore. Why don’t you call your brother and check up on him? Tell her I’m sick and need for her to come over and help me.” What you can do is tell these people she has used to get you to act on her command to stop sending you her messages. Don’t open the doors to any debate with them about your actions, what your mother has been known to do, or anything else that could potentially cause a rift in your relationship. Rather, allow them to see your mother’s manipulative strategies on their own. However, with your partner you may want to be more specific about some of the things she does so that he or she isn’t blindsided.

Ten. She will cry.

Tears will bring a giant to his knees depending on how well they are used. She may get on her soapbox and put on her best act to get you to come over and cry with her until she breaks you down enough to get you to do what she wants. If you fall for it, then she wins and you lose. You can get her to dry those tears up even faster than saying yes, try saying no while walking away. Watch how her sad face becomes angry almost monster like.

Eleven. She will talk negatively behind your back to the biggest mouth in the family hoping he or she will spread your personal issues to everyone.

This tactic was mentioned earlier when it comes to siblings and strangers, but some mothers will use this when they know you are a private person. She thinks she can really get you to do as you’re told if she starts sharing your life with others. If she chooses to do this, you can tell her that you are aware of what she is doing and you would like for her to stop. She may continue to run her mouth, you have a choice either you keep giving her something to talk about or you cut the lines of communication off not only with her but those you know will go back and talk with her about you.

Twelve. She will offer small tokens of appreciation or give you money.

Sometimes being kind and expressing words of flattery is the best way for a mother to get what she wants from her son or daughter. So she suddenly becomes real nice and she wants to do a lot of wonderful things for you of course you have every right to question it. You may want to find out if she is doing anything to help her become a better person. If not, find out what she is hoping you will do for her in the coming days, weeks or months. What are her needs? Chances are she is getting you to commit to something by using sweet tactics without you knowing what that “something” is.

Thirteen. She will provide a little information to get you to open up and talk then later use the information you gave her to work to her advantage.

How can anyone turn down an opportunity to sit down and talk with his or her mother? It sounds innocent enough and you may go along with it. You are feeling comfortable and then gradually you start opening up to her about personal and professional issues. You walk away from that pleasant moment feeling great until the following week you hear that she was talking badly about you to others. She even mentioned how much food you ate and how you didn’t even bother to leave any money for her. Not only that, you find out that she has retold your conversation to a few choice family member s you simply don’t like. Could it be that this was her sneaky way to pay you back for putting your foot down a couple weeks back about something she said or did that offended you? It just might be. If so, you will definitely need to think twice about taking her up on offers to sit and dine with her.

Fourteen. She will turn your father against you.

Fathers are just as important as mothers, if not more, especially in father and son relationships. A son wants to know that his father is proud of him. But a mother who is looking to get some things done around the house on her time schedule or has some other needs that she isn’t receiving from her husband, will purposely say things to the father about the son or daughter that he or she knows will make him angry. Just when the father is becoming close to his daughter or son, here she comes reminding him of the time their child did “this” or did “that.” In the mother’s mind, she feels that if she can keep the child close to her, she will be able to get the things done that she wants he or she to do; therefore, having her own personal servant.

In closing, there are good and bad mothers in this world and either one or the other is talked about in many books, talk shows and other places. But there is also the sneaky mother also known as controlling, manipulative, wicked, and other words that describe negative practices she uses to get what she wants. These are the mothers that can kill, steal, and destroy what makes you happy. Oftentimes these mothers aren’t happy themselves just claim to be. They usually don’t have much going in their lives other than talking on the phone about other people, they have very few true friends, and it seems just about every week they are in conflict with someone. What brings them joy in life is seeking the attention from their children in whatever way they can get it by any means necessary. When you know you have a mother such as this, try your best to always stand up for what you believe in, not what she believes. Also, try very hard not to rely on her for anything and if you can, move far away from her, and visit her when you want to, not because she says that you should. If you follow these tips you can lessen the burden on your heart and mind concerning your mother and give your partner’s and friend’s ears a break from your “my mother” stories!

7 Sneaky Tactics Controlling Mothers and Mother-in-Laws Will Use

Mothers have a lot of power over their children. The adult children who are quick to argue, “My mother has no control or influence over me” are usually the ones who are being controlled without knowing it. You see, the sneakiest way to control someone, is to do it without them suspecting that you are doing it. Take for instance, your mother wants you to come over to her home for a family event and you tell her that you won’t be able to attend. If she has asked you early enough in advance of the event date, she will use the time leading up to the family gathering wisely. During that time she will come up with all sorts of reasons why you should attend and may even use other family members to try to convince you why it’s a good idea. She may try any or all of the following strategies to ultimately get what she wants! She will also use the following tactics in time of need, personal crisis, when she isn’t getting along with others, attention, feeling jealous and more.

One. She will be very critical of your decision making even when you are doing well for yourself.

This strategy is a popular one used by controlling mothers when they see their child is no longer their little baby and has become a man or woman looking to distance themselves from mom. She may also use this strategy to control her son or daughter’s friends too! Here’s what she may do. First, she thinks that you don’t know how to solve your own dilemmas because her mind takes her back to those days of childhood when you made mistakes. Rather than allow you to make your own decisions, she makes them for you or finds so much fault with what you’re saying that you walk away from her not trusting yourself. Second, she knows that if you don’t trust yourself, you will think about what she has said and most likely you will run it by your friends who she is hoping will say, “Listen to your mother.”

The only way out of this strategy is to stand up for yourself at the moment that you suspect she is trying to influence your decision or alter your plans. Depending on the kind of mother you have, you will either have to present yourself confident, like a tough cookie hard to crack or like a very polite manager in a store resolving a customer’s concern. Whatever face you put forward, just be sure it’s one that clearly states that you will be making XYZ decision. Remind yourself not to ask her for her input or bring up a topic in the future that you know you will feel compelled to defend.

Two. She will try to make you feel guilty about not visiting her enough.

A mother has moments in her day when she thinks about what her children are doing. She may reach out to her children or she may wait for you to reach out to her. If you don’t act in a timely fashion according to her watch, she may tell you how good or bad of a son or daughter you are for not visiting your mother. She may compare you to other siblings and people who she knows or has seen on TV.

Three. She will act forgetful.

Some mothers aren’t satisfied with a simple visit from her children. Sometimes they feel like the visit isn’t complete without giving them something to do. Maybe there is nothing that needs to be done in her home and she just wants you to stay awhile longer. Some mothers will resort to the old tactic of forgetting where they placed something. Now there are those mothers that with age do become increasingly more absentminded, but if you see your mother often forgetting things just when you are ready to pack up the grandchildren and get ready to leave, then you know your mother is looking for a reason to control your time with her. She wasn’t ready to see you go and now she has to figure out a way to keep you a little while longer. Other things she may do is drag out a story, create a sudden emergency (like fake an illness), convince the grandchildren to stay even when they don’t want to, and offer plenty of food and desserts while stressing you should stay a little while longer.

A good way to shorten the visit is to sit back and let the children get a little out of control. A mother who is especially particular about her environment will be more than happy to see you go she may even open the door for you. Another way to shorten the visit is to have someone waiting for you in the car or have another engagement to go to after visiting her. If she is the kind of mother that likes to gossip or be critical of others, you can easily shorten your visit with her by mentioning that you don’t agree with her comments or would like to change the subject. A controlling mother doesn’t like the idea that her child is correcting her and rather than deal with the quiet tension that is left after you have told her how you feel, she will be at peace when you get ready to leave.

Four. She will exaggerate the details of small issues to play on one’s sympathies and to get them to act on her needs.

If your mother has been ill one too many times in a week let alone a day, and you haven’t bothered to visit her in the past, then prepare yourself for her stories of having to crawl around the house and struggle to bathe herself. You may learn later that she just had a simple cold and was seen out and about the same day walking around. Of course there are some mothers, who don’t cry “wolf,” but there are some who never saw a wolf but they will make up a story so that you can come over to visit or do something for them. What better way to get you to do as she says, by playing on your emotions? The best way to determine if there really is a “wolf” of a problem is to talk to her on the phone as if you never heard her say that she wasn’t feeling well. Start a discussion about something funny the children said, mention something you saw on television, and other similar things. Before long, she won’t be keeping her act up, she will be laughing and then you will notice that her situation wasn’t important enough for you to drop everything. Another way you can avoid “the drop and run act” is to tell her that you won’t be over and that she should call 911. It may sound cold, but if she has to get someone else involved and doesn’t want to, how serious was her issue in the first place?

Five. She will create division between siblings by showing favoritism.

What better way to get you to do something is to make you jealous? So she will throw a party for your brother, buy your sister’s children the best toys, and accept an invite to an event with another relative that you originally invited her to, don’t fear there are plenty of holidays and events that you can always schedule to be busy, out of town, or simply at home relaxing in front of your TV. It will only be a matter of time that she will notice you aren’t affected by her schemes, even if you are you won’t show it. You may even want to spend more time with these people than she does and you might learn a thing or two from them.

Six. She will treat friends and strangers better than certain family members while talking badly about her family to these same people.

When you don’t do what your mother says, she knows that she can’t punish you the way she did when you were a child, so one of the most hurtful things she will do is treat the people you know better than you. She will invite them up to her home, make dinner for them, ride in their car, attend events together, and may say things like, “This is my adopted son. She was always like a daughter to me.” All of these tactics are used to get you to feel jealous and do more for your mother.

You can avoid feeling hurt by these tactics by accepting the fact that she isn’t a very nice person despite the fact that she is your mother. You can distance yourself from her by establishing healthy associations that she knows nothing about. You can crowd her out by keeping busy with your personal and professional goals. She may notice your behavior has changed toward her and come back around, but if she doesn’t, keep your distance and lose the friend who is naively falling for her act even after you have warned him or her.

Seven. She will lie, belittle or abuse you.

Some people forget that just because someone is a mother it doesn’t mean that she will lie, belittle or abuse you. This type of negative behavior coming from a mother is deadly! She may blatantly lie about forgetting where she has placed something to get you to come see about her. She may call you names or become easily irritated with you when you remind her that you have a partner and children. She may purposely cut you off of any material wealth so that you will dance by her drum. If you don’t want to be subjected to these tactics, expose her when she does them. Don’t sit quietly and ignore her when you know she is in the wrong. Try to avoid the temptation to pay her back that will only make you look like the bad guy or gal and give her something to talk about to the rest of the family.

Mothers Day GIft Baskets and Fruit Bouquets

A mother’s happiness is like a beacon, lighting up the future but reflected also on the past in the guise of fond memories. Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.

Mother’s Day is a time of commemoration and celebration for Mom. It is very special day where we all express our love and appreciation for our mothers. Mothers Day is dedicated to celebrate the bliss of Motherhood. It’s a day when we get the divine opportunity to thank and show gratitude to our mothers. It falls on the second Sunday of each May. Mothers are everything for us when we are small. She is the person for whom we have stepped into this world. Our lives revolve around her. She is like a protective shield from all perceivable dangers.

Today Mothers day involves everything from giving gifts, writing poems, cutting cakes to showering mothers with boundless love. The festival of Mothers Day is based on the emotions shared between mother and a child. As grownups it’s our turn to thank that special lady with the best that we can.

Many people love to get great gifts for their mothers. A well chosen mother’s day gift basket is sure to bring a smile to any mother’s face. Luxury items are always popular items in a mother’s day gift basket. Gourmet items such as rare cheeses, fresh fruits, and imported chocolates are sure to make a big hit. A mother’s day gift basket containing upscale fruit flower, dipped fruit, and chocolate is a popular choice. If mom is a gardener a mother’s day gift basket full of gardening tools and hand lotions is sure to be appreciated.

Sending mother’s day fresh fruit has become something standard and it is only normal to send the mothers in the family a little keepsake so that they know you appreciate them. Every mother likes to feel special when their child treats with a gift at mother’s day.

Unique gift baskets come in many varieties, shapes and sizes – but fruit gift baskets are far superior the ordinary and expected. Full-to-brimming with hand-selected fruit delights with a refined flair, these unique ensembles are ideal for special women who have flair for finery, and for those who simply deserve some flavorful pampering!

The fruit flower bouquets are popular gifts that take you a notch up. The recipient will be thrilled by your innovative gift. On Mother’s day an edible fruit basket can be a good substitute for every artificial. If you give an edible fruit basket to your mother as a gift on mother’s day the recipient will appreciate this idea. The edible fruit baskets are ideal gifts on the occasions like Thanksgiving, Father’s day, Mother’s day, Easter and Christmas. Fresh fruit baskets are works of art. Think of the fruits, edible greenery that is used as filler, the basket and its liner, the cellophane used for wrapping, the skewers, and all these things add to its beauty.

Mother’s day is a day where we all express our love and appreciation for our mothers. A mother’s day gifts basket is a great way of saying ‘thank you’ for all the things mom has done in our lives.

The Perfect Mothers Day Formula

Does your mother deserve a perfect Mothers Day? The answer of course is yes but what does it take to make this special person feel that she couldn’t have planned it better herself. Every mother is different and geography may sometimes get in the way but here are main areas to focus on to make her day special.

* Mothers Day Gifts
* Mothers Day Activities
* Mothers Day Cards

I know the above seems obvious but some might be surprised at how often one or more of the above are not even considered.

Before expanding on the 3 areas let’s discuss why Mother’s Day even exists. The formal recognition of Mothers Day was back on May 9th, 1914 by then president Woodrow Wilson. It was established to honor the mothers whose sons had died in war. The original activists that helped to bring this holiday to pass were Anna and her mother Ann Jarvis. This was in the United States. Mothers Day is celebrated across the world but not necessarily on the same date. Anna Jarvis was especially disturbed by the commercialization of the holiday because the intent of the Mothers Day holiday is not to lavish commercial gifts on your mother but to show her how she is appreciated. That does not necessarily mean buying her things. It all depends on the Mother and the means that one has to buy.

Mothers Day Gifts

The perfect Mothers Day is about making your mother or the mothers in your life feel appreciated and special. In our society that mainly has revolved around getting the Mother the right gift. The traditional Mothers Day gifts have been Flowers, Perfume and Candy. Perfume can be tricky because perfume choices can be very personal so if you go that route make sure you know what she likes. Flowers and Candy rarely disappoint again knowing what she likes is worth big points. Carnations have been traditional Mothers Day Flowers so those would be a good choice. If you know of something specific that she has been wanting that would be a great choice. I don’t mention a specific choice here because these ideas usually revolve around hobbies or interests that are specific to the mother involved.

Mothers Day Activities

A perfect Mothers Day for most mothers involves being surrounded by her family. Spending time together nowadays can be pretty hard and may be even more difficult for families that live far away from each other. If you are fortunate enough to be able to be with your mother on Mother’s Day you should plan out a day that includes family time. In the past I have been taken to Mother’s Day Brunch at a good restaurant. There are even brunches and dinners available on Cruise ships if you have them in your city. These activities should not be confused with pampering and treatment gifts to spas. These are great but are something that they would do on another day.

Mothers Day Cards

Don’t forget the card! Though buying a card may seem impersonal it does not have to be if you choose the right one. The perfect Mothers day would include a card that reflects how you feel about the mother involved and would be even better if you add a handwritten portion that shows that you have put some thought into how you feel about her. Don’t worry about writing a mother’s day poem just write what you feel.

So there you go the formula for the perfect Mother’s day isn’t that complicated but it does require some thought and planning.

Mother’s Day Poems and Quotes

Mother’s Day poems and Mother’s Day quotes are just what you need to take your holiday gift or card from special to spectacular. If you’re looking for something unique this year for Mom, then look no further than Mother’s Day poems or Mother’s Day quotes. The perfect addition to a card (whether written in it or inserted on separate stationery), or ideal as a framed stand-alone gift, Mother’s Day poems and quotes go a long way in recognizing Mom on her special day, thanking her for all she does for you, and telling her just what she means to you. Whether sassy, silly or sweet, a Mother’s Day poem is sure to bring a smile to her face on Mother’s Day.

Mother’s Day poems and Mother’s Day quotes are easy to find; the trick is to find the one that sums up most accurately how you feel about Mommy dearest, the one that best describes your dedication and loyalty to your Mother, the one that really reflects how you feel about her. Here are a few Mother’s Day poems and Mother’s Day quotes that are popularly used in cards and gifts.

Mother’s Day Poems

* “M” is for the million things she gave me,
“O” means only that she’s growing old,
“T” is for the tears she shed to save me,
“H” is for her heart of purest gold;
“E” is for her eyes, with love-light shining,
“R” means right, and right she’ll always be,
Put them all together, they spell
A word that means the world to me.
-Howard Johnson
* Only One Mother
Hundreds of stars in the pretty sky,
Hundreds of shells on the shore together,
Hundreds of birds that go singing by,
Hundreds of lambs in the sunny weather.
Hundreds of dewdrops to greet the dawn,
Hundreds of bees in the purple clover,
Hundreds of butterflies on the lawn,
But only one mother the world wide over. Author Unknown
* Wonderful Mother
God made a wonderful mother,
A mother who never grows old;
He made her smile of the sunshine,
And He molded her heart of pure gold;
In her eyes He placed bright shining stars,
In her cheeks fair roses you see;
God made a wonderful mother,
And He gave that dear mother to me.
-Pat O’Reilly
* To My Mother
For all the times you gently picked me up,
When I fell down,
For all the times you tied my shoes
And tucked me into bed,
Or needed something
But put me first instead.
For everything we shared,
The dreams, the laughter,
And the tears,
I love you with a “Special Love”
That deepens every year.
Author Unknown

Mother’s Day Quotes

* “All women become like their mothers. That is their tragedy. No man does. That’s his.” ~Oscar Wilde, The Importance of Being Earnest, 1895
* “When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.” ~Sophia Loren, Women and Beauty
* “Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.” ~Marion C. Garretty, quoted in A Little Spoonful of Chicken Soup for the Mother’s Soul
* “Mother – that was the bank where we deposited all our hurts and worries.” ~T. DeWitt Talmage
* “A man’s work is from sun to sun, but a mother’s work is never done.” ~Author Unknown
* “A man loves his sweetheart the most, his wife the best, but his mother the longest.” ~Irish Proverb
* “God could not be everywhere and therefore he made mothers.” ~Jewish Proverb
* “My mom is a never-ending song in my heart of comfort, happiness, and being. I may sometimes forget the words but I always remember the tune.” ~Graycie Harmon
* “A mother understands what a child does not say.” – Author Unknown

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A Mother – the Holiest Thing Alive

“My mother is the most beautiful woman I ever saw. All I am I owe to my mother. I attribute all my success in life to the moral, intellectual and physical education I received from her.”

So I want to dedicate this years mothers day for her by gifting her with special gift.

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Making Peace With Your Mother

It’s hard enough on us when we’re at odds with our mother when she’s alive, but it’s even more difficult if she passes away. My client recently left me a message letting me know how important it was to her that she had made peace with her mother and had no regrets when her mom died.

A Client’s Story:
“My mother passed away this past week. and I was just thinking to myself how happy I am that I don’t have any regrets. I wanna say thank you for the help you’ve given me over the past few years with trying to work through my anger and my frustration with her.

Being there for her at the end was really nice. I was with her when she died. I was the only one of us 3 kids that rushed to be there by her side, and I’m glad I went when I did. It was an amazing experience. We were able to tell each other we loved each other.

She told me I was her best friend. And then my dad told me he was really glad I was there. Of all of us 3 kids, he said that I had been the most helpful. It feels so good to have things cleaned up with my family.

The other thing is that I had a talk with a girlfriend and told her she should call you and come in to see you. She had a close call with her dad recently in that he had a heart attack (and is only in his 60’s so that was really scary for her). It happened about the same time that my mom had her heart attack.

My friend has all the same issues with her mom that I did. Her mom won’t communicate and be direct with her or deal with stuff about her dad’s health.

Like my mom, she is being very manipulative and controlling through her dad’s crisis. I was able to share with her how I had gone through all of that and why I first went to you and some of the things I learned from you. I hope she’ll come and see you. Denver.

Handling Difficult Mothers
As Mother’s Day approaches, we think about our mom’s and what gift to give her and what to say in our card to her. We often wish we felt closer and warmer than we do. Instead, many of us have felt hurt, rejected, manipulated,or controlled by our mothers. We feel a sadness or even anger when we read all the cards about “supportive, loving mothers.” These are cards we can’t send.

Whether you’re mother suffocated you or was barely there, you can work through your issues with her. Resolving your issues with your mom will not only help you make peace with her but also will help you in your relationships with friends,lovers, bosses, etc.

At some level, we all seek the approval of our parents. And when we feel we don’t get it (for whatever reason), we feel rejected and subconsciously assume that we’re to blame and are not good enough in some way. This sticks with us and affects our self-esteem and affects all of our future relationships.

A mother is the first person to help us create high self-esteem and give us a sense of security. But she also has the power to do the opposite as well. Because of their own insecurities and problems they never resolve, they often hurt us (usually thinking they are protecting us).

As we become adults, we need to realize that our mother’s behavior toward us is usually less about me and more about her. Her own personal problems have accidentally affected us. This only means that her criticisms and judgements about us are likely not true, but not that we excuse her bad behavior.

It is our job, however, to stop her from treating us badly.

What Makes Her a Difficult Mother?

  • she avoids and denies my emotions
  • she doesn’t give me unconditional love, accepting me with my imperfections
  • she still tries to control me, if not directly, then through guilt
  • she doesn’t speak up and tell me what’s really going on and instead plays martyr or some other game
  • she doesn’t support me in my risktaking and growth to move ahead in life
  • she criticizes me and makes me feel like I’m not smart enough to make good decisions

What To Do:
1) The key to resolving issues and making peace with our mothers is separating ourselves emotionally from them so that we see their hurtful behavior simply as “bad” behavior instead of taking it so personally; and then holding our mother’s accountable for that bad behavior.

2) Take mom off her pedestal. She doesn’t know what’s best for you anymore; she just knows how to push your buttons.

3) Don’t edit your conversations when you around her. Be yourself with her, not who she wants you to be.

4) Stop her if and when she starts criticizing you. Tell her to stop and then leave her presence or hang up if she continues.

5) Write her a letter letting her know that her judgement of you is wrong. Tell her how you are different from her and that you choose to be different from her. Let her know she can no longer judge or critize you, and that if she does, you will let her know some of her own faults. Tell her how you expect her to treat you in the future.

6) Prepare in advance for every interaction with her and set up boundaries to avoid incidents,
i.e. “Mom, you know I’m only going to stay for an hour, so don’t be upset when I get ready to leave.”

Or, “If you judge me about that, I won’t share anymore information with you. I need you to stop talking to me like that now or I’ll have to leave.”

Or, “I know you won’t approve, but I’m not asking your permission, so please just listen and support my decision.”

I taught this information, and more, to the client who thanked me above, and I helped her find peace with her mother before she died.

Luckily my own mother is still alive and doing well. I told my mother that her fights with my dad gave me a negative view of men and made me feel sorry for her. I then mothered her when I needed to be mothered myself. I told her how that has affected my life.

After she heard me and we worked it out, my heart warmed up so much that I had something else to tell her: “Mom, something good did come out of it all: playing therapist to you and dad made me the best relationship therapist ever! Afterall, I started at age 10.”

So should you start all of this with your mother on Mother’s Day? That’s up to you. It may sound negative and she may not like what you have to say at first. But trust me, once you start speaking the truth with her and being yourself and stopping her from hurting you, you, like me and my client above, will warm up to her and be able to have a much closer relationship — one like both of you have always wanted.
(A poem by a client)
I’ve met my maker – what a sight to see.
My maker’s my mother – what a woman is she.
My mother’s my mirror – I see my reflection.
My mother’s my vision – despite my objection.

In some ways she’s generous in her show of affection.
She has countless ways to express her rejection.
By my maker’s hand, have I turned out to be,
more of her than who I thought was me.

It’s a scary thought – to be her clone.
There’s more of her than I want to own.
I have worked too hard to be my own person.
Only to come full circle to learn the lesson.

No matter how hard I try to dispell the notion.
I am woven by the threads of her commotion.
Here I am – my mother’s daughter.
Swimming in circles in her stormy water.

In this calm of the storm I can hear a voice
that assures me that I do have a choice.
I can try to escape and drown with exhaustion,
or I can use this truth as my internal combustion.

I can kick and stroke to escape her sea
or within its bounds be the best me I can be.

Do’s and Do Not’s of Mother’s Day Gifts

A mother is someone who picks you when you have fallen, who cheers you up when you are down, who makes you chicken noodle soup when you are sick, and who celebrates all of your achievements with you. This is why mother’s day happened. Mother’s day is to give back to your mom after all of the sacrifices she has made for you. How do you show that special woman in your life how much she means to you? Get her the best mother’s day gift. Before you even start shopping, remember these mother’s day gifts do’s and do not’s.

Do Not’s
It’s important to know the do not’s before you even begin shopping for mom. Cleaning and cooking supplies are big no-no’s. Your mom is always cooking and cleaning why should you encourage her to do more around the house. Another gift not to give your mom is weight loss foods or supplements. This gift is basically telling her that she needs to go on a diet. You don’t want to insult your mom. Finally, don’t regift anything. Instead, go out and buy something that your mom will like. This is not the occasion to go through your closets of unwanted gifts and give them to your mom.

With all rules, there are exceptions. You can purchase these “do not’s” if your mom specifically said that she wants that as a gift for mother’s day. As I said, your mom must say exactly “I want this (fill in the blank) for mother’s day.” If she did not say this exact statement, do not get her any of the do not’s mentioned.

The biggest do is getting a mother’s day gift for both your mom and (if you are a guy who has children) the mother of your children. Even though your children may not be old enough to afford or even shop for a mother’s day gift, make sure you help them to pick out something wonderful for their mom. Some great mother’s day gift ideas that moms love are jewelry (heart pendants or mother’s rings), online mother’s day greeting cards, relaxation gifts (spa baskets, foot spa, or robes), flowers, gourmet dinner, things for her nursery or baby if she is a new mother, and home decor (fountains, collectible figurines).

Just because you are getting mom a wonderful mother’s day gift, you don’t have to spend too much. You can money on mothers day gifts, mothers day flowers, mothers day gift basket, and mothers day cards to celebrate this important occasion. You can browse through our selected stores that are offering special gifts for mom by visiting the link below.

Get mom the gift that she deserves and save money on mother’s day gifts. Before you purchase, avoid the “do not’s” gifts and get your mom and/or the mother of your children gifts that are “do’s”. Then, celebrate this joyous occasion with that special lady.